Think back to your younger days and all those tough talks you had with your parents. Maybe it was about coming home late, failing a test, choosing a college, or wanting a new car even though your old one worked fine. I remember feeling nervous, having sweaty palms, and worried about how these conversations would end, but most turned out far better than I imagined.
As we grow older, why do we forget that we've already faced countless difficult conversations with those we care about? Aging is a natural part of life; every day, we see changes in ourselves when we look in the mirror. But instead of focusing on what we've lost, we should recognize how much we've gained—experience, understanding, patience, and preparedness for what's ahead.
So, why do we make talking to loved ones seem so daunting? Our parents helped us develop the skills needed for meaningful discussions. They know they've changed and don't need reminders of what they can’t do. More than anything, aging loved ones want to feel valued, respected, and heard. When we show them genuine respect and listen as they once listened to us, anxiety fades, and honest conversations emerge from love and concern.
Rather than dwelling on what loved ones can no longer do, highlight the things they still excel at. Instead of pointing out that they can't care for a home, express gratitude for everything they've done, and encourage them to enjoy the relaxation they've earned.
As adults, we realize how powerful it is to spend time with peers who understand the phase of life we are in. No matter how hard we try, we cannot fully understand what our loved ones are feeling or going through; only peers can truly relate and understand the emotions that come along with aging, as they are in the same phase of life. In community living, friendships are formed and a sense of belonging becomes a natural occurrence. Our loved ones deserve this kind of companionship.
Let’s not make communication harder than it was meant to be. Let’s not lose sight of why we want to have this conversation in the first place: we love, we care, and we want our loved ones to have the best possible life, because that is what they have given us. We want our aging parents to experience the security, comfort, and sense of belonging that they instilled in us. It is our time to be honest, get real, and give back to some of the most important people in our lives. Conversations rooted in love and respect aren't threatening—they're acts of care.
This Valentine's Day, let's reach out to the Seniors in our life and start the hard conversations that come from a place of love and care. If you are unsure how to begin a conversation or worry you might not express yourself accurately, Bridge to Better Living is ready to help. Our Transitions Consultants are skilled at understanding concerns and are always willing to guide you or join the discussion and the transition to a Senior living community. Confident support is always available with Bridge to Better Living.